This is a difficult post to write. Mostly because I KNOW we’ve all felt the same way I’m about to describe. We’re mothers. We’re women. We’re warriors. We’re organizers of kids lunches, laundry, and playdates. We’re doctors and nurses to fevers, scrapes, and coughs. We GIVE all of ourselves to our babies, our beautiful children. Even when we want to hide in the bathroom and eat a Kit Kat Bar.
Mama Bears give and give and give. Those of us that work are pulled in a thousand different directions and then feel guilty that we’re away from our kids, OR feel guilty because we like being away from the craziness while at work. Damned if we do, damned if we don’t. We have to deal with forgotten forms, and judgey looks from others, and miss deadlines. If one part of our lives is succeeding, one is being neglected.
“Shonda, how do you do it all? The answer is this: I don’t. Whenever you see me somewhere succeeding in one area of my life, that almost certainly means that I am failing in another area of my life.” – Shonda Rhimes-
If you’re a stay at home Mama Bear, you have to deal with “Oh it must be so nice to be home and have all that time” which you know is bullshit. Even though you savor the time with your littles, they also are the only ones you talk to allllll day. Having a conversation for the millionth time about Paw Patrol or Frozen or listening to bickering, or crying or constantly feeding and cleaning and diapering, or pumping all day is EXHAUSTING. You have no contact with other adults or seemingly no other human life.
What really gets to me is how often we neglect OURSELVES. US! The champions of others! We’re quick to tell a plus size curvy gal on Facebook that she looks amazing, when we might not feel that way ourselves. We support each other so much, but when we need it feel bad, or won’t reach out. What bothers me is how much we undervalue ourselves. Whether we are staying home and providing and invaluable and frankly, incalculable service to our family, or if we’re working and bringing money in to feed the kids, and carry insurance, and show our kids that women can “do it all.” We all FEEL LESS THAN.
WHY!!!?? We are rock stars! We are badasses! We are goddesses who sprung life from our loins! We are Mama Bears who care fiercely for our pack.
WHY can we not see it, WHY are we the hardest on ourselves. Why can’t we stand on the rooftops and shout
“I’M FRIGGIN AMAZING AND YOU SHOULD SEE ME ROAR.”
I want you to look at yourself and say, Wow, I’m amazing. I’m a woman, I’m confident, I’m sexy, I love my body and I love myself.
My goal is to get you to love yourself so hard! Instill that confidence that you deserve. We have had women come in for photoshoots that were nervous and didn’t know what to expect and they leave strutting their stuff like the own the world. And they should.
Ultimately, my goal is to make every woman to comes into my studio feel like a goddess, and love herself and give her the best possible experience she could have.
Everything is taken care of for you. Everything is done. You just have to decide that you want to feel like that. I WANT that for you!